Weekend Remarks…
I’m in the process of writing a Rewind post, but while you wait, I thought I’d share some of my favorite (and not so favorite) comments while we were out and about with the boys this weekend.
~Little kid says, "Awwww", as the boys pass by him in the choo-choo wagon. His mom replies with, "That’s not "Awwww", that’s INSANE!"
~"What do you call that?" "An Oops?"
~After my sister-in-law was grilled about MY fertility issues the woman says, "Well, you’re the sister, you’re supposed to know this stuff!"
~"Now that’s the best exhibit I’ve ever seen!" (At the Zoo)
~"I’m so excited that I get to be your server!" (At a restaurant)
~"I’m tearing up because they’re so cute."
It’s not just kids that say the darnest things!
why would ANYONE say anything negative. I would love to see quads in public, I would smile and say how blessed you are! Those are some handsome boys!
I know what you mean….I’m sorry you have to deal w/the ignorance of some people!!! It never ceases to amaze me how rude people can be!! You are so blessed, it’s a shame that some people can’t see that and feel the need to spread their ugliness/rude feelings. You just can’t understand what makes people so upset about the fact you have more than one child…and so upset and compelled to voice their opinion to you! Trust me, we have been there more times than I care to recall. I try to act like it doesn’t bother me, but it does. I am getting better, I think (now that #6 is coming in 10 wks)-I just have to remember there are ignorant people and I know the blessings I’ve been given…just be thankful and go on! 🙂 Sorry to post so much, but this is a big irritation of mine as well…and I hate that you have to endure it, too!
Aaaaw Jen…your babies are MIRACLES…you and Brad are blessed beyond measure to have four precious, growing, healthy, sweet boys!! Don’t let anyone bring you down….I’m so sorry people are so inconsiderate of you and feel the need to voice their ugly opinions. Your Friend, Sioby 🙂
Just so you know, you aren’t alone! I have 7 week old twins (boy/girl) and a 15 month liitle boy and I get rude comments too. I get lots of positive comments as well, so I just try to ignore the rude people, though there have been a few times I’ve lost my cool (I’m not one to bite my tongue when I’m angry.) Anyway, I think your boys are precious, and I’m dying to know whar their Halloween costumes are!
But, they are astonishing adorable children even if they were singletons. I’m certain if I were lucky enough to ever get to see them in person, I would stare and stare and probably say something inane–but never mean! You do an incredible job making taking care of four toddlers at once look doable. I remember thinking I just MIGHT lose my mind taking care of one baby at a time!
Wow! It is amazing how rude, and how contrastingly NICE some people can be.
Also, how can people teach their children to make comments like the first one you mentioned? Wow, I hope they don’t have anymore children to teach that meanness to!
God blessed you with 4 babies because you are such amazing parents. That much is obvious!
God gives grace, doesn’t He? I get my share because I have a 2 year old, 1 year old and 2 month old. I get the good comments too, though 🙂
People are just so ridiculous some times. It never ceases to amaze me how BOLD people can be. Did anyone offer to help you with anything? Comment on how lucky you are?
It is good you can laugh at them!
Wow, I just don’t get it. I guess it’s like how it was in second great. Jealousy is all I can think of. You are so indredibly blessed. What beautiful boys you have! I have two sons 12 months apart (18 months and 6 months) and I get “Better you than me” a lot and I have to agree. I am so glad that God blessed ME with them and not someone else.
Oh, can I relate! I had one of the rudest comments last weekend when I was out with the kids and my mom. The kids were ‘helping’ me push the shopping cart around the store (and being SUPER good, too – quiet, walking – happy! not drawing attention other than how cute they were..haha!). Anyways, one woman passed me, glanced at the twins and then glanced at my pregnant belly, rolled her eyes and muttered, in a very rude tone… “oh God!” I could not believe it. Sure, we’ve heard our share of typical and odd comments in regards to the twins, but that was a new low…some people!!
In the 80’s, when buttons all over your acid washed denim jacket were THE thing … I had a little button that said, “Stupid People Shouldn’t Breathe.”
I’ll have to find you one.
What nerve! I can not believe that there are some people who would be so rude! Your sweet boys are precious and adorable.
~Elyse~
jen i was 36 when i got preg. for annie. we were a strange looking family. 13yrs,11yrs, and 6momths. everyone just assumed that our children were the result of previous marriages. so when we would answere someones rude comment about our unique family, i sometimes found my feelings being hurt. we had wanted these babies and had wanted them for so long i couldn’t understand why other people were not happy like we were. i got the remark of —i am glad it is you and not me— so many times that i told jim that i wanted a tee-shirt that said–yea i am glad it is me and not you too– God bless….t
When our twins were born, we had 5 kids and our oldest was 6. Sorry to see that people are still mean 23 years later. They have no idea what they are missing 🙂
Too bad for the negative comments. We happened to be at the Zoo the same time you were. I looked up and saw “the wagon” and said to my husband, “That’s a neat wagon.” My 2 year old said, “I want a turn.” It then dawned on me who you were and was excited to see the boys in costume! They were absolutely adorable! I’ve read your blog for a while, but haven’t ever posted. (Sorry for lurking.) Thanks for sharing your story. We’re out in the Hendricks County area as well. Perhaps we’ll run into you one day again and I’ll get a chance to say hello. Hope you had a great time at the Zoo, I know we did. It was fun to watch the elephants play with/smash the pumpkins.
Laura
WoW….people really do say stupid things. My family got alot of stupid comments too…there were 7 of us (all single births) and the thing that ALWAYS annoyed us was when people COUNTED us!! We’d also hear the “Brady Bunch” theme (ummm…duh…they had SIX?!) Or get, “Are they your REAL brothers and sisters?” (No..some are fake?!) Or the best…and one I thought was the rudest, “Don’t your parents believe in birth control?” (Uh….dont talk to my parents about that, thanks…) Bet those same people would love knowin my Mom had 4 miscarriages. All 7 of us were loved, and well taken care of…who cares how many there are of us!?
I can not even imagine the comments you get… I have been floored at the attention and comments I get with the twins. Crazy people! It seems rare to hear the “how blessed you are” type comments but I LOVE those. We are blessed indeed!
Brittany