Finding Beauty in the Brokenness: Books


There have been so many things pushing me through this loss and grief.  First and foremost is my hope in Christ. I honestly cannot imagine walking this road without His hand leading us, comforting us, caring for us, and faithfully providing for our needs. We would simply be left to wander aimlessly.

I’m all the more thankful for the lives we have been entrusted. Henry, Brooks, Clark, and Isaac have been reasons to get out of bed, and great sources of both joy and distraction.

Brad has been fiercely loyal.  We’ve hurt together, differently, but in unison. I know it’s times like these that either break you or make you, and we’re determined to let it grow us, even if it’s painful.


Additionally, there have been a few other helps along the way that I’d like to share with you.  I know that so many of you have or are facing different hardships and grief, and I hope these can be a source of encouragement to you.  If you are coasting right now, perhaps you can use these resources to be a source of comfort to those hurting in your circles.

I’ll start with books. Words have been a powerful tool in helping me walk through the pain.  I’ve been listening to others who have walked through pain, uncertainty, loss, difficulties, and have come out shining. They’ve found beauty in the broken road – a journey I’m determined to endure.

Here are 3 Books God Has Used to Show Me Beauty in the Brokenness:

1. You’re Going to Be Okay by Holley Gerth

The timing of this book was impeccable. It arrived unexpectedly on my doorstep as an early release the day before my D&C.  You think that was simply accidental? I was a little afraid of working through this book, because I knew it would force me to swallow the hard things, and see God’s goodness through it. And it did.  This book was the warm hug and reassuring pat on the back that I needed in some of my darkest hours. It forced me to see so many truths, and embrace the hope that I can cling to in the joy and in the sorrow.


2. Choosing to See by Mary Beth Chapman

I read this book in a little over 24 hour hours in some of those first hard days, because I simply could not stop reading it.  Although the Chapman’s weight of grief in loosing their daughter Maria, must be so much heavier than my own load, I could relate so much to her words, “All stories of hard are different, but pain and suffering are the common ground.” I found so much comfort through her writing and honesty in the struggle of choosing to SEE.


3. I Will Carry You by Angie Smith

I read this book back in 2010, and it greatly changed the way I’ve responded to friends and family’s pain and losses. Brad and I have referenced it frequently over the last few weeks, and know that we both read it for a purpose. It’s a beautiful depiction of the sacred dance of grief and joy.



What books have been a treasure to YOU in finding beauty in the brokenness?

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7 thoughts on "Finding Beauty in the Brokenness: Books"

  1. I heard Angie Smith speak at Women of Faith a few years ago when she first joined the tour. She shared the story of their loss… and it was beautiful. It was also so cathartic for me as I came to realize that my miscarriage wasn’t something I was ever going to “get over” and that it was ok for me to be sad about it that day and any day – even decades form now.

  2. I bought “You are Going to Be Okay” when I was swamped with my own grief a couple weeks ago. I have only gotten through the first chapter or so, but, it has been worth it just to see that message over and over again next to my bed.

  3. Siob says:

    Hi Jen, I have been thinking so much about you and you are in my prayers. I read Choosing To See also in one day. I read it right after Annie’s baby Daniel passed away. I also read I Will Carry You. Both such really comforting books. I need to buy and read You’re Going to be Okay. I think I could also use that inspiration. My heart truly goes out to you and Brad and your boys.

  4. Kim L says:

    Sunshine After the Storm: A Survival Guide for the Grieving Mother

  5. Crystal says:

    Mary Beth’s Chapman’s book is SO amazing! I loved every page. Will check out the others, thanks for the recommendation.

  6. Ms. Lange says:

    Thank you for the book recommendations! I want to send my prayers to you and your family.

    Best of wishes!

  7. Diane says:

    I was thinking of you today as “The Hurt and the Healer” by MercyMe came on my ipod. It has been a song that has ministered so deeply to my soul over and over. If you haven’t heard it, you might find comfort in it’s words. God Bless you!!! :)Diane

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